Wednesday, December 02, 2015
your experiences are not universal
Recently I became involved with someone born between 1946 and 1957; aka, a Baby Boomer.
I know, I know. All the good times have probably already happened, and reality is setting in.
This person didn't seem to be opinionated and stilted in his thinking. He claims to vote on the left side of liberal. He cooks. Has animals. A sense of humor. Appears to get along well with others.
I'm thinking this is as far as it goes, though. Barely two months in, and he's telling me the way I should do things. Criticizes my plans. Belittles the marriage for which I'm just over eighteen months widowed, says he "doesn't think it was a real marriage."
There. I think I have my answer.
Here's a clue for anyone who might not understand what is wrong with this picture: if you want to have a future with someone, don't do battle with a dead husband. You will lose. Be the bigger person, and allow that your love life was not the first, or it most decidedly will not be the last. Understand that your past experiences have shaped your opinions and vision, just as mine have.
We are not the same. And in most cases, that is a very, very good thing.
I don't want this to devolve into another bashing of *that* generation. But it is hard not to: I have a really hard time relating to anyone born prior to 1964. (The actress Betty White is a notable exception. That lady is just joyful all the time, about everything, and how can you not love her? In contrast, how many other joyful Silent Generationers or Baby Boomers can you name?) These folk not only are situationally surly and obtuse; they just have no idea; another friend pointed out, quite astutely, that most of them are emotionally stunted; they didn't learn anything from their experiences and have no idea that their world was as blighted and stupid as it was. They think, above all, that they know better than you. They really have no basis for their untoward, unwelcome, and unenlightened opinions but they are damn well going to bless you with them and you should be grateful for their experience.
Um. No thanks, actually.
I think I'd rather watch the sunset, while I can still see it.
Wednesday, November 18, 2015
the anarchy of nature
...and in like manner, willow heralds the spring with effusive yet subtle gestures in palest green.
In the fall, the summer birches shed their green for pumpkin, burgundy, rich yellows, molten gold. They stand, godlike, unaware and unheeding of our passing.
In November the world is setting the stage for sleep, to rest awhile before the cycle begins again. The promise of delicious, rose-colored fruit glistens in the midst of soft rain, held aloft on greenbriar branches, steady and peaceful. In the quiet you can feel the gentle pinpricks of preparation, feel the heartbeat of movement that carries us, blissful, through the coldest months until the rising sap presses up the stems and new life bursts upon us once again.
Wishing you a restful winter, and a joyous awakening in the months to come.
Sunday, September 21, 2014
bahleeting the behemoth
--Select "Something else" Under "Tell us more about your issue"
--From the first drop-down menu, select "Account settings"
--From the second drop-down menu, select "Close my account" Under "How would you like to contact us?"
--Select what works for you - email, phone, chat. You are most welcome.

Hightower's Two-Part Takedown of the "Bezon" - Part 1: "Cheap" comes at a very hefty price Part 2: The tax-dodging predator at The Hightower Lowdown
The Amazon Effect at The Nation
Amazon Jungle Review of the book Amazonia at The Guardian
Amazon's Monopoly Must Be Broken
Amazon's Monopsony is Not Okay, by Paul Krugman in the NY Times Readers comment on Paul Krugman's article
Tuesday, September 16, 2014
Friday, September 12, 2014
the anarchy of dreams
Links I am reading while my mind cogitates:
http://main.nc.us/books/books.cgi?thecominganarchy-shatteringthedreamsofthepostcoldwar
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/33691.The_Coming_Anarchy
https://www.nytimes.com/books/first/k/kaplan-anarchy.html
http://www.blueanarchy.org/celestial/
http://www.awesomeyourlife.com/2012/03/love-anarchy-are-what-keep-your-dreams-high-stakes-and-thrilling/
http://cvilleanarchism.wordpress.com/
http://www.anarchistnews.org/
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2009/08/03/krugman-if-you-arent-outr_n_249813.html
http://www.dailykos.com/story/2006/05/23/212822/-If-you-aren-t-angry-you-aren-t-paying-attention
http://theamericanscholar.org/every-last-one/
http://www.akpress.org/
http://theanarchistlibrary.org/
http://anarchyisforeveryone.blogspot.com/2008/06/call-for-submissions-anarchism-and.html
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Masque_of_Anarchy / https://ia600309.us.archive.org/23/items/masqueofanarchyp00shelrich/masqueofanarchyp00shelrich.pdf
http://www.acorncommunity.org/
Hope: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hope
The Principle of Hope: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Principle_of_Hope
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Revolt_of_Islam